Menya impamvu 8 zishobora gutuma umugore/umukobwa atanyara ?
Ibyishimo bibonerwa mu mibonano ku bagore hirya no hino kw’isi ntibyakunze kwitabwaho kugeza ejo bundi mu 1950 aho abashakashatsi batangiye kubitekerezaho ari benshi.
Ndetse wagiye usanga mu mico imwe n’imwe na n’ubu bagica abagore umwe mu myanya ndangagitsina yabo ibafasha kwishima ku buryo bwihuse mu gihe cyo gutera urubariro ngo batazavaho baca inyuma abagabo babo.
Mu Rwanda ho kuva kera abagore bari bafite amahirwe y’uko abagabo babo baba bafite inshingano yo kubashimisha, kuko habagaho igikorwa cyo kunyaza kuva kera.
Niba rero bikunze ko umugabo afasha umugore kuzana amazi, ni ikimenyetso cya mbere cy’uko umugore aba yanyuzwe n’imibonano kuko adashobora kuyazana atanyuzwe.
Gusa, n’ubwo iki ari ikimenyetso cyo kunyurwa n’imibonano, ntabwo aricyo cyivuga ko umugore agejeje ibyishimo bye kundunduro.
Ariko se abagore batajya bazana aya mazi muri icyo gihe, byaba bivuga ko batajya bishima ? Hari Impamvu zitandukanye zishobora kuba intandaro yo kutazana aya mazi ku mugore.
Gusa, umugore ashobora kugeza ibyishimo abonera mu mibonano ku ndunduro kandi atigeze azana aya mazi.
1. Kuba umugabo atarabasha kumenya icyo yakorera umugore we ngo aya mazi ayazane : hari abagabo bajya bibwira ko ngo bigeze gukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina n’undi mugore runaka, ngo we akazana amazi, bityo babona uwo bashakanye ntayo azana bagahita bumva ko ubwo ari ntayo agira. Hari n’abasore badatinya guhita bangana n’umukobwa bari bakundanye, yamuha bwa mbere ntayazane ubwo bakaba babyaranye abo. Ariko kandi, abagabo bagomba kumenya ko buri mugore yihariye, icyo wakoze kugirango nyirakanaka ayazane gishobora kuba ntaho gihuriye n’aho uzakora kugirango uwo mwashakanye ayazane, bityo kuba utarabona ayazana bishoboka ko Atari ukubera ko atayagira.
2. Kuba umugore ataramenyera kwirekura igihe cy’akabariro : Hari abagore baba batarabasha kwerekeza ibitekerezo byabo byose kuri icyo gikorwa, maze ugasanga bitumye mu mutwe hatirekura ngo hafashe imyanya ye kurekura ya mazi.
Bivugwa ko abagore bazana amazi bataragira imyaka 30 ari bake cyane. Iyo bamaze kuyirenza, ngo baba batangiye kumenyera no kwirekura ku buryo bworoshye. Ku myaka 40, n’ubwo umugore aba arimo asatira gucura, ngo nibwo yirekura wese wese ku buryo umubare w’abazana amazi uba munini cyane. Ushobora rero kwibeshya ukaba wakwiyirukanira umugore kandi igihe cye cyo kubasha kwirekura akazana ya mazi uhora uhiga kitaragera.
3. Kuba umugore atinya kurekura aya mazi akeka ko yaba agiye kunyarira umugabo we : Ibi nabyo bibaho, hari abagore bumva ayo mazi agiye kuza, ariko bagatinya ko aza bakeka ko bagiye gukora umwanda ku buriri.
4. Kuba umugore azana make cyane atagaragara umugabo agakeka ko ntayo azana : Aya mazi aza atangana ku bagore bose, bikaba bivugwa ko ava ku gitonyanga kugera kuri litiro. Ashobora kuza inshuro imwe cyangwa se zirenzeho mu gihe cy’umubonano umwe. Igihe umugore azana igitonyanga rero, umugabo ashobora kwibwira ko uwo mugore atajya ayazana kandi imyanya ye irekura make.
5. Kuba umugore ahangayikishijwe n’uko amazi ataza : Uku guhangayika nako gutuma kwirekura binanirana bityo kuzana amazi bikanga.
6. Kuba umugabo akora imibonano mpuzabitsina agambiriye gutuma umugore azana amazi : Ibi nabyo bituma iyi mibonano ikozwe gutya iba mecanique, nta rukundo n’ubusabane biba birimo kuko hari intego itumbiriwe, bityo kubona ya mazi bikagorana cyangwa ntibinagerweho.
7. Kuba abashakanye batajya baganira igihe bari muri iki gikorwa : Kuganira igihe cy’akabariro ni byiza, kuko umugore aba ashobora gusaba umugabo aho amukoreye hakamubera heza kugirango ahagume. Iyo ahagumye, ahanini usanga ariho hari butume ya mazi aza kuko haba hafite ubwumvumve bukomeye. Ariko kandi iyo atamuvugishije, umugabo akomeza ahinduranya uko yishakiye agirango ibyo ari gukora nibyo byiza, kandi yahava umugore akababara nyamara ntakome !
8. Kuba umugore ntayo ajya azana kubera ko imvubura ziyarekura zishobora kuba zidakora neza cyangwa nta n’izo agira, cyangwa bitewe n ;ingano y’imisemburo ya kigore yifitemo : Ibi nabyo ni ibishoboka ko umugore koko ashobora kuba atazana amazi. Ariko kandi, icyo abagabo bagomba kwishyiramo, kuko kuryoherwa n’akabariro bihera mu mutwe, ni uko kuzana amazi ataribyo biryoshya akabariro, Ahubwo kugira ububobere buhagije mu gitsina nibyo by’ingenzi.
Aya mazi rero umugore ashobora kuba ayifitime n’aho yaba atarayazana na rimwe, cyangwa se umubiri we ukaba uteye utyo akaba adashobora kuyazana, nyamara ntibimubuze kuryoshya no kuryoherwa mu mibonano igihe agira ububore buhagije kandi nawe azi icyo gukora.
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njye nemera ko umugore wese anyara,gusa bagabo mujye muganira nabagore banyu mumenye ko bifite akamaro kanini kuko umugore arushaho kukwishimira.munyurwe kandi nibyanyu
nibyo kabisa inkuru nziza cyane , najye icyompa amanota nukuba umugore yifitemo ububobere buhagije kk nicyo cyingenzi kdi cyinaryoshya ibintu.
Iyi nkuru ni nziza kabisa kandi yafasha benshi. Mubyukuri imibonano imeze nk’iy’amatungo igihe cyayo cyararangiye. Tugeze mu iterambere ritandukanye, no mimitekerereze kuri iyo ngingo rero dutere imbere. Nta mugore utanyara, ariko ntibanyara muburyo bumwe, kandi kunyara siyo ntego y’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Iyo habayeho gutegurana, kwisanzura no gushimana kumpande zombi, bigenda neza ndetse n’amazi akaza ndetse kubwinshi.Birababaje kuba wakwanga umugore wawe ngo ntanyara, kandi wenda ari wowe utabimufashamo cg mubikora mutisanzuye. Nonese koko wakorera imibonano iruhande rw’abana, umugore ari kwiyumanganya ngo abana batumva ibyo murimo, ukumva ko ayo mazi yaza gute? Ntibishoboka.Niyo mpamvu rero iyo ugiye hanze mu malojyi kuko ho haba hisanzuye, abo bagore bandi banyara sana, ukibwira rero ngo hari icyo barusha uwawe naho byahe byo kajya.
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jye nanga umugore unyara kuko binyanduriza uburiri,ayo mazi se muvuga si inkari se?? ninde wakwishimira ko bamunyarira…..
Sha eric rwose wowe uri fake!
Ngo ngw’iki sha?twizere ko urimo kwikinira!Jyewe nguhaye ukampfubya nakumerera amenyo ya ruguru!Iyi nkuru rwose icyaduha abagabo bacu bakayisoma bose!!!
Hano harimo ikintu gisa no gukabya. Njye natangiye kunyaza mfite imyaka 23. Uwo mwana w’umukobwa twaranganaga andusha gusa amezi make. Bwa mbere naramunyaje nawe arikanga (ariko aguma hamwe) gusa biramutangaza turangiza ajya gukoropa ambaza aho nigiye ibyo bintu.
Ubu mfite umukobwa, we nantangiye kumunyaza afite imyaka 24 ubu afite 29 ariko aranyara ngo ngwino urebe !!! Ndamutse murongoye simunyaze ntiryarema ! iyo ndushye we aranyakira kuburyo atazirarana. Nibura ngomba kumunyaza nk’iminota 30. Ashobora kunyarira nka 3 mu ijoro rimwe!
Hari rero abagore batanyara pe ! hakaba n’abandi bisaba ingufi nyinshi (physique et mentale)na techniques z’udukoryo: Hari umugore wampaye (bishoboke ko umugabo we atamunyazaga)akaba yaragirango mbimukorere ariko mu by’ukuri yara nduhije kumunyaza sana. Umunsi umwe naramunyaje ziraza arasara maze mbona abaye nk’utunguwe !! Ariko nanjye ingufu nahatereye naryamye amasaha 12 yose ntakangutse.
Rwose ntibakababeshye: ntibisaba ko umuntu aba ageze mu myaka 30, n’ufite 15 iyo anyajwe neza witonze arazimisha ariko nkeya, kandi na none hari abagore batanyara rwose !
Nanone ubwinshi bw’inkari buratandukanye. hari umugore wigeze kumbwira ko iyo amaze iminsi arya neza hari igihe anyara nka litiro zigera kuri 3 (ubwo ni nk’amacupa 2 ya amazi ya NIL amwe manani)
Ngibyo ng’uko ! Abagore bagira ayabo !
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Ukwezi kwa buki ni ukuvuga iki? kumaze iki kuri mwembi? Sobanukirwa na kamere y’abagore/kobwa nibwo uzamenya uko witwara. Bimaze kugaragara ko abagabo benshi batumva neza nature y’abagore (iri complexe cyane, kuburyo nabo ubwabo hari ibyo badasobanukiwe kuri bo ! )iki kikaba kiri mu bituma ingo zirimo gusenyuka ari nyinshi muri iki gihe muri Kigali ndetse no mu cyaro n’ubwo leta idashaka gukura umutima abaturage!
Twebwe abagabo twagiye twexploita (exploiter) abagore none dore ibisekuruza (siecles) bishize ari 21, ibi byatumye tutabasha kumva abo aribo…bityo nabo ntibabasha kwerekana abo baribo n’icyo bashaka…! Ariko birimo birahinduka tu !
Gukebwa (mu bihugu bimwe na bimwe) ni ikimenyetso cy’iyo myumvire naho Abapfubuzi ni kimwe mu bimenyetso (negative) by’iyo mpinduka.
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uzi ko neza wagira ngo uriya mugore niwe urekura ariya mazi?
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Umugore wese afite amazi ikibazo ni abagabo bayashaka.Ninka ikamwa amata menshi bitewe n’umukamyi.mwige kuba ba KANYAMIGEZI rero.
Mwa banyabyaha mwe !! mwarasaze,murashize pee !! urabona uburyo mwasebeje uyu mugore kwerii!! Ubu se uyu mugore niwe wanyaye iki kiyaga ! ko mbona akayaga imbere ye,niwe se wakinyaye ,yaba ari Nyirantsibura peee.
Nge rero umuntu anyariye nk’uyu namuta munzu kuko uyu mwanda sinawihanganira.
njyewe harumutinzi umugore yisiga,undi akawunywa mbere yogutererwa akabariro akajyanyara,bimufasha kongera ubushake nokwiyumva mumugabowe,nyuma yamezi abiri arawuhagarika kuwukoresha, ubundi akabarakize kunyara bigahoraho,
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iyi nkuru niy’ukuri kuko akeshi umukobwa ntazana amazi uhubwo agira ububobere kuko glande ziba zitakura bigatuma atazana amazi.Naho umugore atangira kuzana amazi amaze kubyara kabiri kuko niho glande ziba zimaze gukura ok i have experince
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